How impossibly sweet:
My 6-year old daughter is at a remedial school, with an EXCEPTIONAL treatment team (teachers, occupational therapist, physiotherapist, speech therapist and educational psychologist).
More invested people one could not find.
I am always so aware of how they must be speaking to her, because her automatic speech is so positive, encouraging and tenacious.
For example, several months ago, I was attempting a new type of at-home workout, and she sprang into motivational action, coaching me as if from second nature, “Right, mommy, this might be tough but YOU CAN DO IT! I believe in you. Just start and it will get easier”.
I could hardly proceed, for tears of gratitude and pride that this little human has access to such exceptional care, locking in self-talk wins for life.
That was months ago.
Then, this morning, she was having a conversation with Jack-the-Labrador.
Jumping around, she showed Jack and I her pristine ‘splits’.
She then immediately empathised with Jack, and said, “Aw shame, Jackiroo… I bet you would love to do the splits. But you only have puppy legs… Not people legs”.
And then the humdinger:
“Don’t worry Jack.
Things can change.
Things can get better”.
Mom was a PUDDLE.
“Don’t worry Jack. Things can change”.
I’ve become increasingly aware of the importance of how we speak to ourselves about our mistakes and limitations… Do we berate, criticise, and self-deprecate, in the face of challenge (which will naturally lead to feelings of shame and surrender)?
Or do we take a deep breath, steel ourselves, and start the upward climb, in the knowledge that “This is hard, but I can do hard things”?
It makes the world of difference.
I’ve been in a moody funk this week. There are a few hurtful and confusing truths in my orbit, and I’ve been in my feelings. My own exercise routine has struggled along, perhaps as a cause, perhaps as an effect.
So to hear such pearls pour out of this little human’s mouth was really heartening.
“Don’t worry Jacki-roo. Things can change. Things can get better”.
I hope that brightens your day, and inspires you to start every day with a strong, focussed, self-loving mindset.